tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6096733110335593666.post7117070970806167519..comments2024-02-15T12:26:12.329-05:00Comments on Pumpkin Patch Primitives Quilt Shoppe: I Have a Zero Tolerance Policy for AttitudeBrendahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05563689842824628301noreply@blogger.comBlogger34125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6096733110335593666.post-74523334383775599952011-08-21T17:52:32.914-04:002011-08-21T17:52:32.914-04:00Apparently you never had my daughter wait on you! ...Apparently you never had my daughter wait on you! LOL! She had a family of regulars that would come eat at the family resturant she worked at. Their little boy was autistic and he would always tell megan want he wanted to eat and drink. His brothers and sister would give her their orders as well as the parents. Then the parent would tell megan that their son could not have what he ordered! They would order him somethign completely different, not give him anything to drink and cause a meltdown in the place. Megan always felt so sorry for him because he was treated so differently from his siblings :(Rosemaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02454734089195144802noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6096733110335593666.post-52575479284478602882011-08-08T20:57:09.101-04:002011-08-08T20:57:09.101-04:00So well said. Keep up your good work, it will pay...So well said. Keep up your good work, it will pay off. My niece is a special ed teacher and this year, after spending 3 years with her, 4 of her 10 students are being "main streamed" and 3 more will follow in January. Your son is a special gift and your care is important to his later years...with patience he will grow.Arthurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03864844665453717884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6096733110335593666.post-28971861688609493212011-07-27T21:31:53.151-04:002011-07-27T21:31:53.151-04:00thank you. The world has become a horribly idiotic...thank you. The world has become a horribly idiotic place for many of us. I was the parent of a child with developmental disabilities and my best friend's daughter ( and my bestest pal) has Down's. I now am very vocal when stupidity is about. Im not apologizing for it either. Our society is so rude and self centered, it makes me sad. You keep up the good workCatty Wampushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01005625999070775127noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6096733110335593666.post-20168475931946769012011-07-23T16:51:34.805-04:002011-07-23T16:51:34.805-04:00I just want to say "thank you" for posti...I just want to say "thank you" for posting this today. I am still struggling with how to deal with my own almost-nine-year-old-living-with-autism-sweetheart and am so very tired of having to explain to people the why's and the wherefor's. But to be quite frank, your story goes far beyond the autism. It is a sad sidenote on today's society in general. NO ONE cares anymore a lick about anyone but themselves. Everything and everyone is an inconvenience. Each individual feels so entitled. No one wants to work for what they get and no one wants to take blame for what they've done. Don't even get me started about behavior in cars and on cell phones! I am just glad to know I am not alone...and sadly, I have several years to go yet before I hit 40, so I guess I am becoming that old b**** before my time. Roll back to 1950 anyone?Dawnhttp://www.artistreborne.typepad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6096733110335593666.post-27034233623124293952011-07-16T23:04:34.260-04:002011-07-16T23:04:34.260-04:00YOU GO GIRL !!! So agree about rude, impatient wai...YOU GO GIRL !!! So agree about rude, impatient wait staff, store clerks and service employees. And YES - I worked in all those jobs when I was younger and helped fund my school. Really irks me when people can't give simple, courteous service! I also am the first one to give a struggling server or new on the job kid a break and a smile. They're trying! <br />My heart is with you and your son, my nephew has Asberger's & other problems, he's a wonderful young man and he's come so far!Aggiequilterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08819191358525850755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6096733110335593666.post-7917932246374684382011-07-09T07:58:21.464-04:002011-07-09T07:58:21.464-04:00Well said! There's nothing worse than rude sho...Well said! There's nothing worse than rude shop assistants and waiters. They are being paid to serve YOU, it is not your job to make their lives easier. <br />It is understandable that people might not recognise or know how to deal with autistic customers, but even so it is not acceptable to be rude to ANYBODY.<br />Good for you for speaking out. Far too many people put up with terrible service.Charlie Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13032728105576144714noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6096733110335593666.post-12759652858887240812011-06-18T12:59:39.882-04:002011-06-18T12:59:39.882-04:00Got a Subway sandwich the other day - the "sa...Got a Subway sandwich the other day - the "sandwich artist" couldn't understand what toppings I wanted. I tried to figure out what I was doing wrong - I'm mumbling - she's new, so be patient, etc. I finally noticed the earbuds - really ??!! You think the Black Eyed Peas know what I want??!!<br /><br />On the other side, THANK YOU for the exceptions that make eating out a great experience. It's an amazing world - in both directions (sometimes within 15 minutes of each other)!! Thank you for the wonderfully-educational posting. Faith.Faithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10726547570187971896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6096733110335593666.post-84180412291990770862011-06-16T01:19:25.171-04:002011-06-16T01:19:25.171-04:00I so agree with you on this subject. I also have ...I so agree with you on this subject. I also have to say so many fast food and other restaurants have young kids working and although they have no right to show attitude to any customer, they may not have the "heads up" on autism, etc. That is why I love when I see a prgram on tv or anywhere in the media discussing this issue. We need more education to understand. You're one great Mom!Sherryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18176253777977885693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6096733110335593666.post-45756309090146226552011-06-13T14:47:29.333-04:002011-06-13T14:47:29.333-04:00Thank you for your post. I am the mother of 5 kids...Thank you for your post. I am the mother of 5 kids, 3 bio and 2 that we are in the process of adopting fromthe foster care system. I am also tired of the looks, sighs and comments of being a lousy mom because my 2 littles are rude, loud, obnoxious, disobedient. They are that way because they were neglected and abused, hence the reason they are mine now. I am sure in time they will improve, but I am tired of the judgemental people out there. They have no idea what we are going through.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6096733110335593666.post-1630619585052290832011-06-08T21:03:56.031-04:002011-06-08T21:03:56.031-04:00YOU GO GIRLFRIEND!!!!!!!! You are the best mom I ...YOU GO GIRLFRIEND!!!!!!!! You are the best mom I know. You deserve an award and I know your not looking for one. But I can not even imagine what you go for everyday of your life. Your GP is one lucky boy to have a momma like you. <br />Love you friend.Sharonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15742449202839306434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6096733110335593666.post-66885060651783186792011-06-07T16:38:45.853-04:002011-06-07T16:38:45.853-04:00Thank you for discussing this. My son was diagnos...Thank you for discussing this. My son was diagnosed at age 5 with Autism- closer to the Asperger's end of the spectrum. He's so smart and handsome, fun and funny.<br /> It's been several years since an older man told my parents- as I was carrying my little boy in the midst-of-a-meltdown out of a restaurant- that all he needed was his a** beat. We also have a few clueless family members who offer unsolicited parenting advice.<br /> BUT, for the most part, people are kind and patient. We are blessed with a special group of family and friends that understand, encourage and help.make.share.givehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01576370591210075243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6096733110335593666.post-15390534018803134712011-06-07T01:21:55.359-04:002011-06-07T01:21:55.359-04:00You go girl!!! Protecting your child and educatin...You go girl!!! Protecting your child and educating him in life skills is hard enough without pure crassness!!<br />Hugs GloriaGloria J Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04428048482351700079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6096733110335593666.post-47618091057031856842011-06-02T12:35:15.409-04:002011-06-02T12:35:15.409-04:00All I can say is good for you!!All I can say is good for you!!Diane Cullineynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6096733110335593666.post-23604750418396817382011-05-31T19:47:38.936-04:002011-05-31T19:47:38.936-04:00Would you like me to hold your handbag while you g...Would you like me to hold your handbag while you go sort this out?<br /><br />I think many people don't understand the concept of working in a service industry. I will heap praise direct to the managementwhen I have been helped above and beyond by a member of staff but I will also go straight to the top if there is an 'issue'.trashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13623440501234583451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6096733110335593666.post-82336052262896286432011-05-31T00:49:00.433-04:002011-05-31T00:49:00.433-04:00Good for you and for your son for having you. You...Good for you and for your son for having you. You aren't ignoring the problem. You aren't in denial. And you are expecting and requiring the respect your son deserves. My dad ia a resident in an assisted living facility. He is 92, very nearly blind, uses hearing aids, and has hospice care, but he is not senile. He stands up for himself, but some of the staff fail to notice this. This is my dad, not my son. And he will probably be gone before I am, but he deserves respect and demands it...and to those who fail to recognize what he has contributed as a working person, as a veteran, and as a parent, then I WILL step in. You have every right to let off some steam and expect respect for your son from others. THanks for letting me blow off a little steam, too.Susannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6096733110335593666.post-14271038406775177192011-05-29T17:01:52.717-04:002011-05-29T17:01:52.717-04:00Amen! Now exhale! I hear ya girl. The dumbing...Amen! Now exhale! I hear ya girl. The dumbing down of America is officially in full swing.Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12462124067637610359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6096733110335593666.post-10537751405883738562011-05-28T10:32:17.000-04:002011-05-28T10:32:17.000-04:00When we are in the park and my cousin who is a big...When we are in the park and my cousin who is a big 40+yrs austistic kid wants talk to the "other" kids, the looks those parents give him. The world is different but each person can change the world...you go girl!Annahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12551626315399910528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6096733110335593666.post-13795657250645390582011-05-27T17:56:23.940-04:002011-05-27T17:56:23.940-04:00Yea for you Brenda! So many people today don'...Yea for you Brenda! So many people today don't have a clue how to listen. Not only to our children or grandchildren but to us. Nothing ticks me off more than a grocery line cashier talking to another cashier or the bagger without paying the least bit of attention to people in line. Makes me wonder if they get any type of instruction beyond how to work the cash register! I actually had a young (under 18 I'm sure) gal argue with me at a McDonalds once about what I had said when I ordered. She had such an attitude that I boycotted that McDonalds and have never gone there again and that was over 10 years ago. LOL Listening or even just being civil seems to be a trial for people nowadays. Again, good for you!!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14698801749067092572noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6096733110335593666.post-66891715914096195482011-05-27T08:28:36.609-04:002011-05-27T08:28:36.609-04:00Hi Brenda,
As an educator for 24 years, I have wor...Hi Brenda,<br />As an educator for 24 years, I have worked with a few autistic children and their parents. I have witnessed how hard it is to let/force the child try to find a measure of independence. You are amazing!! Bless you for your patience with your precious son, and bless you for not allowing ignorance/indifference to be the flavor of the day for that waitress. I will pray that you calling her out might, just maybe, change her way of doing business in the future - at least a little.<br />Blessing to you,<br />MelissaLibbiesHomehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07570859397997305424noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6096733110335593666.post-26818706651636016242011-05-27T00:24:33.745-04:002011-05-27T00:24:33.745-04:00It is mind boggling to me how some people "ju...It is mind boggling to me how some people "just don't get it" and the sad thing is many of them never will get it. That is why God only gives "special children " to special parents" .....Brenda you are an amazing person and an even more amazing Mom. GP is one lucky young man...to have you in his life ..to help him prepare to live as independently as possible....my heart aches for you in trying to teach all the ignoramuses out there to be more tolerant.<br />((((HUGS))))<br />LynnLynn Barbadorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09531500602020227537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6096733110335593666.post-43026606250333672012011-05-27T00:22:21.806-04:002011-05-27T00:22:21.806-04:00Hi Brenda,
I loved your rant :) I have a friend wi...Hi Brenda,<br />I loved your rant :) I have a friend with a son who even had on a T-shirt at a play centre explaining he has autism (to no avail as complaints were still made.) I've experienced the huffs and Liam is not 7 yet. I have also met wonderful accepting people, and Liam knows and behaves better because of this acceptance.<br />Another friend also told me how shocked she was when her daughter (in a wheelchair) was treated better once a person realised it was temporary.<br />You are doing a great job. This attitude helps no-one.<br />Well done GP, you know what to do even though that waitress didn't.<br />Hugs, SharonSharon (Stitches on Mars)https://www.blogger.com/profile/06362923463315689802noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6096733110335593666.post-30615688288362702352011-05-27T00:15:12.741-04:002011-05-27T00:15:12.741-04:00Great for you -And I'm glad that you shared, a...Great for you -And I'm glad that you shared, as I think that sometimes we ALL need a little reminder about attitude...attitude when driving, shopping, banking, dining, etc, etc, etc. Many people are always going to be the "entitled" ones, no matter what...BUT most are not and sometimes all it takes is a little "call to the carpet" like yours to help us remember: we are all human, and no one is perfect and we each need a little patience - some of us more than others...whether it's the patience and knowledge for and about autism, or something else, kindness matters.<br /><br />I know, that was a very long and rambling sentence, but hopefully you understand that I think it was great for you to vent on your zero tolerance policy for attitude. We all should be "called on it" to help us be more tolerant and kind and friendly and helpful and gracious, and, and!, no matter what it's about!!!<br />Thanks, and Amen!Debra @ Life is a Stitchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15853926453946247707noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6096733110335593666.post-69467325900570144352011-05-26T23:41:26.745-04:002011-05-26T23:41:26.745-04:00Amen girlfriend! You rock. Give GP a hug for me!Amen girlfriend! You rock. Give GP a hug for me!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10695421540227541971noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6096733110335593666.post-2829936979527608622011-05-26T22:47:40.020-04:002011-05-26T22:47:40.020-04:00Hi Brenda
You go, girl! As someone who spent many...Hi Brenda<br />You go, girl! As someone who spent many years trying to help students with autism transition from school age to adult services, I have to tell you I appreciate your efforts on GP's behalf. Those scripts and independent skills will help him all of his life.<br /><br />Rude cashiers and servers seem to be more and more common-- a recent cashier even let me know she resented having to get off her cell phone to check me out! I agree with other posters who say that management needs to educate those people on customer service.<br /><br />Blessings to you<br />D.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6096733110335593666.post-33114821560622104842011-05-26T21:51:33.967-04:002011-05-26T21:51:33.967-04:00Dear Brenda- thank you for this posting. As the mo...Dear Brenda- thank you for this posting. As the mother of a 21yr old son with Aspergers I know from experience that people need to be told this stuff. Also, I just want people to be nicer to those with disabilities. Sometimes I want to smack them and tell them how lucky they are not to be in my son's shoes and have a little patience (but I don't actually smack them because my dear sainted mother taught me manners). Take care, I include you and your son in my prayers.carol funhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01602159377334420359noreply@blogger.com